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Do You Dislike Setting Goals?

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Here it is January — again! Another new year with all the information about goal setting and why New Year’s Resolutions don’t work.

But what if this is the year when you really want to

  • make a contribution to your world, or
  • make a difference or
  • do something that matters?

If you want a different kind of year, I suggest that you don’t follow the same old goal-setting or goal-avoiding patterns as all the other years.

Most goal-setting processes don’t work, because over 40% of the population are not motivated by goals. Motivation is the problem!

This isnt’t the first time I’ve said that most people don’t like setting goals — and for a very good reason! 

The problem is not whether a specific goal is motivating or not. If setting and working diligently to achieve goals makes you want to stick your finger down your throat, you are not alone.

That’s why I created a short audio program called Wishing, Wanting and Achieving to help you figure out your own success strategies and many, many people enjoyed listening to it.

“I just went through your strategies in Wishing, Wanting and Achieving. As usual it was most helpful. Thanks for sharing it. My reason for writing you, is that I am so very impressed with you, for what you have designed (and are still designing) for the rest of us mere mortals. Keep up the good work.”

Bill Huckabee, Pennsylvania

Wishing, Wanting, and Achieving is excellent. I learned that in order to achieve goals it helps to make them part of what I already do. It also helps to set up a plan as to how the goal can be attained. Thank you so much!”

Trish Belisle, United States

In fact this program was so well-liked that I have also created a Mini E-book  to go with it: Wishing, Wanting and Achieving.

“I can’t thank you enough for this! It has always puzzled me why people don’t achieve goals even if they “really” (as they themselves say it, me included) want to do those things. I only wish that I’ve got my hands on this material earlier. Thanks very much again!”

Elena Kjærsdam, Denmark


Maybe you need something other than the usual goals to help you succeed in 2013!

Click here to listen to Wishing, Wanting and Achieving

Click here to get the Mini E-book, Wishing, Wanting and Achieving

It’s only $4.99 and you can download it right away.

Have a fantastic year and make it really different from any year before now. The world needs you!

Cheers!

Shelle
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Help!! My presentation is tomorrow!!

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Just mention the word presentation to most people and they will start to get nervous; even just thinking about it. 

Do you have an idea that you know will make a difference but you don’t know how to get it across in the right way and/or the thought of standing in front of an audience makes you sick and shaky?  

For many people this is an experience that causes high stress and anxiety.

BUT

It doesn’t have to be.

Learning how to structure your information and present your ideas in a captivating way will leave you feeling confident and powerful before, during and after your presentation.

I have been presenting to audiences of all sizes all over the world for many, many years and I was the past president of CAPS (The Canadian Association of Professional Speakers).

With my combined expertise in communication and presentation skills I have created 3 MP3s that share with you my proven one-of-a-kind presentation techniques in an easy to learn format that will have your audience entertained and wanting more.   

Save over 30% when you purchase all 3 MP3s together.  ONLY $19.97 US  

CLICK HERE TO GET “THE PERFECT PRESENTATION PACK” NOW!

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The Perfect Gift for Anyone! Students, co-workers, friends, family.

Still not sure? Feeling a little skeptical?

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How to have a Dynamic Opening to your Presentation - Shelle's Top Tips
How to have a Dynamic Opening to your Presentation – Shelle’s Top Tips

Don’t miss out on my LAB Profile Consultant/Trainer Certification Program 2013

We are offering a $600 US discount PLUS a FREE Group Coaching Session with Shelle after the program to the first 11 registrants – there are only a few spots left

Click here for all the information you need to know

We offer flexible payment options if needed.

If you would like to know how this program will benefit you both personally and professionally I will be happy to speak with you.  Please contact Melody at [email protected] and she can find a time that is suitable for us both. 

Cheers,

Shelle 

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What is the best advice you have ever received and how did you use it?

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My best advice was from my father who said: “There are only 2 things you cannot undo – once you have a baby, you have a baby and if you kill yourself, you are dead. On everything else you can change your mind, so carte blanche! Go forth and do what you need to do.”

His words have given me the courage to take risks – such as investing my time and money in new ventures such as libretta.com. And this has helped me change my mind when a new strategy was needed, such as when I had to get out of my marriage.

It would be great to share the best advice you have gotten. It will enrich all our lives. Just post it in a comment right here on my blog: www.theshelleblog.com or on my Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/shelle.rose.charvet

Cheers,
Shelle

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“My mother always said “make your hobby your career”. As a kid I always had hobbies including all kinds of crafts. By the age of 13, I started collecting antiques and visiting historic house museums. Today, at age 54, I am Senior Curator of Dundurn National Historic Site and love every minute of my work. As well, every aspect of my life complements my work. There was never any doubt in my mind where I wanted to go in my career.”

Kenneth J. Heaman M.M. St.
Senior Curator,
Dundurn National Historic Site

Shelle’s new LAB Profile Technology & innovation competition for Libretta

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As you may know, in 2010 with my partner Micha, we created a techie company called Weongozi. Our first product was HusbandMotivator(tm), the LAB Profile® iPhone app.

We have spent the last year developing an advanced communication email tool using the LAB Profile®, in partnership with the German Institute for Artificial Intelligence.  

Our new email tool is called Libretta(tm). It uses Artificial Intelligence to identify what is motivating people by analysing what they write and it gives guidance on the language to use in response. While you probably don’t need it for everyday emails, people are using Libretta to read the mind of their customers, colleagues or anyone else for high-stakes correspondence.  

It’s now available without cost as we are beta testing it. If you have Outlook 2007 or 2010 for Windows, I would love you to try Libretta and let me know what you think. You can download it at www.libretta.com 

Innovation Competition – top ten finalist!

We entered our new email tool Libretta(tm) into a local innovation competition called Lion’s Lair and have made it to the top ten finalists, competing for a prize worth $100,000. Next week I go before the Lions and will be filmed making our pitch and being interrogated by the Lions. This innovation startup is a whole new world for me and it is all very exciting. I am deep in preparation and practice mode! 

You can see my quick pitch at www.pitch-it.ca as well as the other finalists. Check it out and please give me your feedback.

The local CBC (Canadian Broadcasting Corporation) produced a profile on me and our company with a short video that you might like. In it Libretta(tm) reveals what was so inspirational from Jack Layton’s last letter to Canadians. (He was a much loved Canadian politician who died in 2011.) 

Then the national CBC picked up the story! You can see the profile and video at: 

http://www.cbc.ca/news/technology/story/2012/08/09/hamilton-lions-lair-libretta.html  

Isn’t this cool?  

Cheers,

Shelle

Motivating Yourself

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Sometimes the hardest thing for people is finding a way to motivate themselves. They say they want to do something and they don’t do it. One of the most important things about  motivating yourself and staying motivated is to know your own motivation triggers.

For those of you who know me, you know a lot about my book, “Words That Change Minds” which talks about all these different motivation triggers. But, let’s talk about some specific things that are important to you but you have trouble either getting motivated or staying motivated.

Most people’s long term goals don’t give them immediate satisfaction, but the critical action times for motivating yourself are in the here and now. If you want to get fit, for example, and every day you decide you’re going to get up and go for a run. I’m talking about this because this is something that I do and some days I don’t do, every day is the important piece for your long term goal of getting fit. But how do you motivate yourself to get out of bed when you’re actually comfortable? Or how do you keep motivating yourself to stick to the nutrition routine that you’ve decided for your long term goal? I’m learning the German language and I have a lesson every week, and I need to put in more time. How do I succeed at motivating myself to do that?

Let’s look at a couple of things. Sometimes people have goals, but they don’t get started. And the reason they don’t get started is they think the goal is important, but it’s not urgent enough to do now. So they have a “toward” pattern in that they want to move towards the goal, but nothing makes it happen right now.

There’s nothing that makes you do something right now like an emergency or something that’s urgent. So if you don’t get started on the goal that’s important to you, it’s because you haven’t figured out what you want to move “away from”.

Let’s just take an example that I’ve lived a few times and that is I decide I would have a new weight, a lower weight. So I set my weight goal and I start to move towards it. Why not? Well, what I need is an image in my head of what I don’t want to make it an emergency.

Instead I need to get up, and look in the mirror– before I get stressed and say, “Ack!” Now that’s an emergency, right? That will get me started on a new routine of walking and running and a new nutrition program, etc. But the problem with goals that you do because you want to move away from a problem, is if you go, “Ack! I don’t want to look like that. Ack! I don’t want to feel like that,” is you have a very strong motivation at the beginning, but it doesn’t hold.

So if you want to keep motivating yourself every day, you need to have something to move away from and something to move towards. So here’s another trick: if you’re trying to continue motivating yourself just by talking to yourself, it’s usually not strong enough. You need to create an image in your mind of both of what you don’t want and what you do want.

What you don’t want will push you away and what you do want will draw you towards your goal. So if you have both of those motivation types, “the away from” and the “toward”, that’s even stronger.

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Here are a couple of other tips. If you have a set process that you incorporate into your day, chances are you will remember to follow it. Particularly, if you have your “toward”, your “away from” and your “toward image”  set up so that you can move towards.

Now, how do you do that? Everybody has rituals. Put your new behavior or the thing you want to do inside one of the rituals or procedures that you already follow. So let’s say I’d like to take vitamins. Well, if I put the vitamins away in the cupboard, every morning I go and make my breakfast, I don’t even remember to take those vitamins.

I want this motivation thing to be easy. I don’t want to feel like I’m pushing a rock every day. So how do you do the vitamin thing in an easy way? Well, if you have tea or coffee in the morning, put the vitamins beside the kettle or in the teapot or in a coffee pot. When you see that, you’ll also see the vitamins much easier, no effort to remember.

The easiest way to have a new behavior and maintain it once you have the motivation pieces in place is to insert the new behavior inside a process or a procedure that you already do.

Would you like more information on how to get and keep motivated?
Click here  for my “Wishing, Wanting & Achieving” mini ebook – only $4.99 USD

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Not reaching your goals? Check out my new mini ebook.

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Have you ever been curious to know what made the difference between goals you set but don’t make happen and the achievements you actually acomplished in your life?

I am pleased to share with you the launching of my new mini e-book “Wishing, Wanting & Achieving – Personal and Professional Strategic Planning“.

This mini e-book has been created from my much-appreciated audio program, only now there is a clear step-by-step guide so you can put your own success strategies into practice and get the benefit.

(In fact I created the book this year after getting so much positive feedback about the audio program.  A free link to the audio is included at the back of the mini-book.

If you are not getting the results you want, don’t wait til the year is over. Here’s a chance to discover your own success strategies. It doesn’t have to be hit or miss.

Click here to get your copy, it’s only $4.99.

Why Reading This Mini-Book Just Might Make the Difference in Your Life 

You have probably read, heard, and seen lots of information about the benefits of setting goals. Maybe you have even created a vision board and achieved the things you visualized.

Most people do not set goals – and for a very good reason!

Most goal-setting processes do not work.

Years ago when I started teaching the NLP Outcome Strategy in companies, people would come up to me, months or years later and whisper in my ear: “I tried that goal process. It didn’t work. I don’t know why.”

This got me to thinking! How many times have I set an intention, visualized it, wrote it down, worked toward it, but never achieved it? Each year, for about 15 years, I set the goal of achieving a certain weight. Have you seen me lately :-)?

So what is the issue that plagues so many people?It is not usually a problem of not having the knowledge or the skill – if you only needed to find out how to do something to be successful, most people would accomplish what they wanted.

Did you know that over 40% of the population is not motivated by goals? 

Motivation – or rather, lack of motivation – is the real problem!�

Click here to get your copy 

Please check out the book and let me know what you think.

Cheers

Shelle

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Dealing with Setbacks

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Recently I have had a few setbacks.  I have an ongoing health issue and I got back some blood tests and they were not very good.  Also I gained some weight.  I’m on a nutrition and fitness program and the news wasn’t good so I spent quite a while just feeling like it is so difficult to do what I’m trying to do.   

Do you ever have that feeling where, it just feels like it’s too hard? 

I realized this morning while I was out having a run that setbacks are really meaningful experiences for a couple of reasons. When you are trying to change your habits or when you have a goal that you’re trying to meet or a long-term problem that you’re trying to solve like my health issue, and you get a setback, you realize how reliant you are on some kind of external feedback. We know from research that when people are trying to change a habit or do something different over the long term in their life, they need some external support. Even if you are really determined inside you, you need some external support so when you get a setback, it is the evidence that shows you it’s not working and I think we’ve got a couple of choices when that happens. 

  • You can whine and moan like I did thinking its too hard, and I want to give up on all this stuff OR
  • You can whine and moan first (because sometimes we just do that) and then realize that the setback is actually loaded with good information. I want to look at these blood tests and look at what I’m doing and look at what happened and what I was doing when my blood tests were better, is there some kind of correlation? No guarantees, but that’s what I could do. And also the fact that I kind of strayed off my nutrition program and my exercise plan, what is that telling me about my motivation? So these are two things that are external pieces of information that I can take in and I realized both of these things were telling me that my motivation was dipping. 

Now, I want to look at some options and some ways of re-motivating myself because I was succeeding before so there’s no reason why I can’t succeed now.

So two strategies for doing that,

 1)      Get some external support.
We know that the setback from the outside made us feel bad. Who can be supportive to you?   I’m not really keen personally on asking people if they will give me positive feedback, so what I’m going to do is look for external evidence that is going to show me that I’m on an off track.  A few examples for me are the weighing scale and how fit I feel when I’m running.  Those are very helpful. 

2)      Why is this important to you?
Remember why you’re doing this. What goal are you trying to accomplish as you’re doing this and what problem are you trying to solve or get away from? And make sure you do it in visual. We know that if you can see your goal and you can see the problem you want to get away from, chances are you are going to be more motivated and that’s how you can use setbacks to your advantage. 

So once you get over whining and feeling sorry for yourself, which a lot of us do, me for example, then you can look at those two options.

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Do you hate setting goals?

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You have probably read, heard, and seen lots of information about the benefits of setting goals. Maybe you have even created a vision board and achieved the things you visualized.

Most people don’t set goals — and for a very good reason! 

Most goal-setting processes don’t work.

Years ago when I started teaching the NLP Outcome Strategy in companies, people would come up to me, months or years later and whisper in my ear: “I tried that goal process. It didn’t work. I don’t know why.”

This got me to thinking! How many times have I set an intention, visualized it, wrote it down, worked toward it but never achieved it? For each year for about 15 years I set the goal of achieving a certain weight. Have you seen me lately :-)?

So what is the issue that plagues so many people? It is not usually a problem of knowledge or skill — if you only needed to find out how to do something to be successful, most people would accomplish what they wanted.

Did you know that over 40% of the population are not motivated by goals? Motivation is the problem!  

I am not even talking about whether a specific goal is motivating or not. If setting and working diligently to achieve specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, ecological goals makes you want to stick your finger down your throat, you are not alone.

A few years ago, I created a short audio program called Wishing, Wanting and Achieving to help people figure out their own success strategies.

Maybe you need something other than goals to help you succeed!   

Click here

 to listen to Wishing Wanting and Achieving!

 Please let me know what you think of this program, [email protected] 

 I wish you much happiness, health and success Shelle!

Cheers,
Shelle 

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A couple of simple ways to have a GREAT year!

Welcome to 2012!

Here are a couple of resources for you, as you take some time to think about the 2012 you want to have.

I have gone through them and each in their own way made me feel deeply peaceful and optimistic.

This one is from my friend Art Giser, creator of Energetic NLP. It is a guided meditation to enable the wisdom from your unconscious mind to eliminate what you want to get rid of and create the states you want to live. Check it out for yourself here:

www.energeticnlp.com

The second is a video about the one thing you can do that will improve your health for a long time to come. I have also sent this one to a lot of people! From Dr. Mike Evans.

23 & 1/2 Hours

All it takes is about 30 minutes of quiet to go through these 2 short videos. It is well worth it.

Shelle, let me know what you think of them: [email protected]

I wish you much happiness, health and success in 2012!

Cheers,
Shelle

ps. Next time I’m sending you a process to help you discover your own success strategies!

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Some useful links.

www.WordsThatChangeMinds.com for articles, funny videos of MOI, etc.

www.ShellesEvents.com to find out if I’m speaking or training near you

www.LABProfileCertification.com  Want to get certified to train the LAB Profile(r)?

Some holiday gift ideas recommended by Shelle

Can you believe that it’s December already?  I’ve just gotten home from a whirlwind tour:

  • London to the NLP Conference where we launched our new NLP book: Innovations in NLP for Challenging Times (see below – the book answers the question: What’s new in NLP?)
  • Geneva to work with my clients at CERN (European Nuclear Research Centre)
  • Warsaw for the first time  to deliver “Sales and Marketing in the New Reality” for Igor at Neurointelgenja where I met some great people
  • a couple of days with my love in a spa in a secret location outside of Berlin
  • Toronto to attend the Canadian Speakers annual convention. I was telling my friend Rhonda that this was a really fun convention. She replied: “That’s because you are not responsible for anything this year!” How true.

Whew! Now I’m back home working on our new technology project, using LAB Profile and email. Stay tuned for more information.

Here are some novel gift ideas that you may like for the holidays!       

1. My new HusbandMotivator™ iPhone app –
only 99cents      

A great gift for your friends and family to introduce the LAB Profile® or for people who like my book Words That Change Minds.     

This is the NEWEST LAB Profile® practical application! 

You can get it in the App Store.   

2. Check out the NEW Innovations in NLP book. 

I am really proud of this book.  I co-edited it with Michael Hall, another well-known NLP trainer and author. It’s a collaboration with 24 NLP specialists from around the world, presenting what’s new in NLP. 

Each chapter describes a new model or application and contains step-by-step instructions or a case study on how and when to apply it.   

For NLP people it provides, in my opinion, an outstanding collection of new tools and ideas to take their practice forward.  

Contributors include: myself, L Michael Hall – Meta States: Modelling Self-Reflexive Consciousness Charles Faulkner – Modeling Market Wizards: Revealing the Methods of Outstanding Traders and Investors Robert Dilts – Success Factor Modelling: The Secrets of Entrepreneurial Leadership Ian McDermott – NLP Coaching, Nick Kemp – Provocative Change Works, Kris and Tim Hallbom – Empowing beliefs about Money and Wealth, Penny Tompkins and James Lawley – the latest in Symbolic Modelling and many, many more. 

We are all donating the proceeds to the NLP Research and Recognition Project.     

For the UK & Europe – it’s available now!    

http://www.amazon.co.uk (Free shipping to a single UK address; rates vary to other international addresses) Available Now! 

The paperback version will be available mid January 2012 in North America.   

If you are in North America, you can pre-order your copy today – through the following websites: 

http://www.amazon.ca (Free shipping to a single canadian address)

http://www.amazon.com (Free shipping to a single USA address; rates vary to other international addresses) 

The kindle version is available on:

http://www.amazon.com

http://www.amazon.co.uk

3. Special holiday deal on my Make me with Everything Package. (PaperBack Books and CDs only)   

This is the best deal ever! Order it here   

Now – free shipping to anywhere in the world! (until December 16th!)

Now – Comes with a free Shelle Tote Bag – while quantities last.

If you live outside Canada — order right away to get it for the holidays!

 You can order it here  

 4. LAB Profile Consultant/Trainer Certification – only 5 iPads Left! 

We have 5 iPad’s left to give away to the next 5 people who register for the 10 day Option. If you want to come to the program, I suggest you register now and get your own iPad 2.     

Just make the deposit to reserve your place. 

Register Here  

Whew! Those are some ideas for the holidays.  

Hope you are enjoying December. 

Best wishes,

Shelle 

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